GUYS. read this. please.

Alright, this one is for you, gentlemen.  I’ve had a few conversations over the years with some of you and you seemed to be surprised about certain things that girls do or think.  So I’m gonna go full disclosure here and share some of these things with you that the sooner you find out, the better.  Girls, some of this might be a little embarrassing, but we gotta own it and stop trying to hide our crazy! We’ve all got it!

1)      When we’re walking around in public, we aren’t checking you out.  We’re checking out other girls.  Now now, don’t get too excited.  We’re checking them out because we’re comparing ourselves to them.   Ranking ourselves against them.  It’s pathetic actually.  I’m not proud of this, but it’s what we do.  But in any case, you don’t really have to worry much about what you look like, cause we probably don’t notice.  Unless you’re not wearing a shirt and lifting some heavy boxes off the ground or something.  Then expect a lot of staring and inconspicuous iPhone picture taking.

2)      If we’ve talked to you for at least 20 seconds, we have probably already considered the possibility of dating you, and either ruled you out or you are our new crush.  Don’t worry, it probably won’t last long.   But if you are somewhat attracted to us, don’t be afraid to make a move!  Cause honestly, unless you are hideous or really awkward or smell bad*, we are already considering you.  90% of the time, if you are brave enough to make a move, we will give you a shot.  Halle and I, and probably a lot of other smart girls, have made up our minds that we will not pursue, we will be pursued.  If you don’t make that move, you won’t have a shot.

*Side note: smelling good is HUGE.

3)      Honestly, past that immediate curiosity, we actually like to move very slow.  It takes time for us to trust you, to develop a history with you, etc.  If you come on too strong too quickly, it will freak us out.  As much as we may say or think that we hate it, wait a day (not 3) before calling/texting/facebook messaging**.  Give us some time to think that you are out doing really cool things and have a super exciting life.  But, AND THIS IS IMPORTANT, be intentional about communicating and showing your interest when you choose to.  Just do it in small doses at first.

**This list is in order of decreasing amount of balls.  Man up and call.

4)      Fourth and final (for now anyways), here is our biggest secret: WE HAVE NO IDEA WHAT WE WANT.  Well, actually we do.  We want a guy who is romantic but masculine, honest but mysterious, a pursuer but not creepy, attractive but doesn’t act like he knows it, confident but not cocky, athletic but not a meathead, etc. etc. etc.  We know these expectations are too high, but we have too much womanly pride to settle.  If you’re confused, that’s ok, so are we.  Don’t worry about figuring us out, cause we don’t even have ourselves figured out.

Anyways, I hope this doesn’t freak you out too much.  But if it does, that’s too bad, cause every girl I know is pretty equally crazy.  If she’s trying to hide it now, it will come out later, and probably worse than you could ever imagine.  So just let us be a little weird and confusing and love us for it J

Also, as always, we welcome comments with any thoughtful questions or responses J

-S