compliments: not as creepy as you think

Think back to a time when a guy complimented you. Now think back to how that made you feel. GREAT, right?!?!? One time last year a guy said that I looked nice, and I still remember EVERYTHING about that moment. I remember who it was, where it was, what I was wearing, what he was wearing, etc, etc. Maybe I'm a psycho. Maybe it's Maybelline. The only time I actually feel creeped out by a guy when he's giving me a compliment is if he says something like, "You have a way of being sexy with your feet." Yes, someone actually said that to me. As long as you don't look/ act like a serial killer, I probably won't get creeped out. Or think you're hitting on me. Promise. Also, whenever I get a compliment from a member of the male gender, I view him as confident and self-assured. Guys: give a compliment to a girl tomorrow and watch her face light up. It seriously will change her entire day.

Ladies, you know I'm not leaving you behind on this one though. When you get compliments, PLEASE be gracious and just accept them. Say "thank you", smile, and let it make your day. Nobody likes that awkward denial. What are they supposed to do, agree with you? Maybe they should after that lavish display of self-deprecation.

Challenge: compliment as many people as you can tomorrow. It will make you feel great about yourself seeing how many people you make happy. And here's an extra challenge: give them a specific compliment. The best compliments I've ever received and remember to this day are not the typical outfit praises or the you-look-cutes, but the ones that say something meaningful about who I am as a person. Embarassing fact: I write down every compliment I get that makes me feel warm and fuzzy in my 'notes' on my phone, so whenever I'm feeling sad about my life I can just look at those and realize that I'm not so bad. So, if you've ever complimented me, your name is probably in my iPhone and I probably love you. Don't freak out.

Side note: when you're complimenting someone, make sure you're actually being authentic because people can SMELL fake. We all went to middle school. With that one girl.



Don't be her.

And for the record people, this post is not me crying about how I don't get enough compliments because my identity is in Christ and he's the only person whose opinion matters anyways. I'm simply on a mission to encourage people to spread the positivity and love because you never know how badly someone might need it. And remember: you can never give enough compliments because most of the time, people aren't getting enough.

Peace and love,

-H